Excerpts from the Paper presented by the Diocesan Family Service Centre, Goa at the 17th NATIONAL CONFERENCE OF CATHOLIC PSYCHOLOGISTS OF INDIA (CCPI) in GOA 30th Sept-2nd Oct 2016 at St. Joseph Vaz Spiritual Renewal Centre (Cruz dos Milagres), Old-Goa.
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The Christian Family:
Sanctity is not just for monks or nuns or celibates only. Christian spouses and parents are also included in the universal call to sanctity. Marriage is a sacrament and hence family life is a vocation to holiness. It is there that one picks up the basic and essential virtues like faithfulness, truthfulness, honesty, tolerance, patience, kindness, co-operation, service, understanding etc.
Family, as a fundamental unit of society, plays a central role in the humanization of the individual and society and thus, in weaving our social fabric. The family is, by itself, the living image of the church and symbolises the community of life between God and his people. The witness of a life of faith lived in the family, is the first and the most effective evangelisation that the children and those living around that family recieve.
Family called to form a Community of Persons:
Communion of persons is established through fidelity and total giving of oneself to the other. Spousal couples should be aware of one’s own abilities and limitations, so also the abilities and limitations of the other. Spousal couples should constantly renew and relive their commitment given to God and to each other on their wedding day. As persons or human beings they are prone to commit sins or mistakes but they should acquire strength from the Lord to change, convert and to forgive one another and seek forgiveness from God. These conditions will bring about the success and durability of the family communion. If the family is the first school of socialization, it is because marriage, the conjugal union of the spouses, is “the first expression of the communion of persons.” (Gaudium et Spes, n.12).
The Most Beautiful Thing – Family:
The “Holy Family” is a model for our families today. Children will find in Jesus, a divine example of obedience. Mothers have, in Mary, their model; in keeping the love of God alive and active in their homes. Fathers will find in St. Joseph, the patient and just man. He worked all day, struggling to procure the needful for Jesus and Mary and sometimes without any earthly reward so as to fulfilthe role assigned to him.
A man and a woman united in the sacrament of matrimony, grow together in faith, hope and charity and God wants to lead the family to sanctity. Thus they bear witness to the love of Christ in the world. This process is characteristic of marriage and family life. In the Christian living of matrimony taken globally, there are two distinct and inter related areas, one is conjugal spirituality and the other is family spirituality.
- a) Conjugal spirituality: It is realised in the loving relationship between the man (husband) and woman (wife) in marriage.
- b) Family spirituality: It extends to the relationship between parents and children.
Authentic mutual love promotes freedom and creativity to the highest degree. Persons who love in this manner help each other to bloom, to be their best and to grow in excellence. The sacrament of matrimony contains in itself a powerful dynamism of renewal and growth.
Christian Family by its very vocation is called to partake of the life of the Most Holy Trinity. The spirituality of the Trinity, that is the spirituality of love and communion, is the daily sustenance of all Christian families and every liturgical celebration.The celebration of the Holy Eucharist in communion with other families and the family prayer especially, the Rosary, along with the sharing of love and communion within the family deepens the Trinitarian spirituality of the Christian family.
Christian families need to deepen, through prayer, their relationship with the Most Holy Trinity (Ecclesia in Asia, n. 46; Familiaris Consortio, n. 59).Prayer is indeed a covenant relationship between God and the human being. Daily family prayer, therefore, establishes and strengthens an intimate and lively relationship with the Trinity and in turn, Christian living in a family is animated by prayer that is rooted in the spirituality of the Trinity (CCC, n. 2564).
The Word of God Guides the Life of Families:
God speaks to us not through words that convey death, but through communication that imparts His divine life to us. This Word of God is Jesus himself: “The Word was with God and the Word was God. The Word became flesh and dwelt amongst us” (Jn.1: 1, 14). God’s Word in the family is the presence of His only son “If you continue in my Word, you are truly my disciples” (Jn.8:31).
Husband and wife should build their family on God’s Word (Cf. Mt. 7: 24-26) and the Scripture reminds us that they should adorn their married life with virtuous love (Cf. Ef.5:25-33). For this reason, the Church forcefully and specifically exhorts all the Christian faithful to learn about the surpassing love of Jesus Christ by frequently reading the Sacred Scriptures (Dei Verbum, n. 25).
Family offers their sacrifices through the Sacrifice of Christ:
The summit of life of Christ is his Paschal Mystery and the heart of the Paschal Mystery is his suffering and death: He gave himself up on the cross. In the eyes of faith, suffering in life is not a burden, but a great opportunity to fulfil God’s will. The sufferings of Jesus are an inspiration to us, because they are valued as his self sacrifice made in surrender to the Father’s Will (cf. Mt.26:36-46). God will therefore, be pleased with any sacrifice we make with the intention of offering ourselves up to Him in surrender (Ecclesia de Eucharistia, n.13)
The core of the celebration of the Eucharist is the same self-offering that Jesus made on the cross and whose memorial He established at the Last Supper. He chose two signs: bread and wine, because these two items were essential to the Jewish meal. Bread and wine symbolize human weakness, human toil or sacrifice. In one word, they symbolize human life, more specifically, family life. By the sweat of their brow, the husband and wife lovingly place ‘bread and wine’ meaning food and drink on the family table. Bread and wine also signify the happy and also sad events, day to day painful or sorrowful experiences of life, the doubts and the hopes, the sufferings, pains and afflictions accepted by the family in a spirit of faith. That is why in every celebration of the Holy Eucharist, the husband and the wife can, through the symbolism of bread and wine, offer their whole family life, indeed the entire world to God. (Christifideles Laici, n.14).
Bear One Another’s Burdens:
Being more intelligent, humans are also more selfish. It would be a great shame if our families become a mere collection of individuals who seek their own pleasure, comfort and identity, with no concern for anyone else. Homes are certainly not meant to be filling stations or shopping places where individuals come to eat, sleep, dress, watch T.V. etc. Wherever two or more persons live together, differences and frictions are bound to occur. The family is no exception to this. If the family has to go forward in peace, love, joy and unity, members must be willing to forgive others and to seek forgiveness for themselves.
As St. Paul advises us, “Be always humble, gentle and patient. Show your love by being tolerant with one another”. The pooling together of interests, energies, efforts and resources is necessary for a good family. If the spouses do not offer support to each other, it is really difficult to go forward in family life. Similarly, parents should support their children and vice-versa.
Joys and Demands of Love:
Love is a relationship. There can be no neutrality and no indifference. In a loving relationship freedom of the other is respected and the other is valued as a person. Family cannot live without love for love is the foundation of married life. Love helps to reconcile with God which in turn helps to reconcile with one another. Genuine love is both sustaining and healing. Another quality of love is that love is caring and serving. Love needs to be a gift, meaning self-donation or offering oneself to the other and needs a sacrifice. Hence, love is both, a “gift and sacrifice”. Another important quality we see in a family is to be one in spirit, which means there is no such thing as “my decision” and “your decision” but always should be “our decision, i.e, one common decision of the family.
A family in the modern world wants all the comforts of life. This is the case with almost all families irrespective of religion, region or colour. Poor families struggle to make ends meet and wish they had more wealth which would give them some more comfort. Rich families want more wealth since they are not sure of the future and somehow wealth gives the best of everything including luxury, comfort, power and better treatment from people. The rich want peace, the poor want some respite in their lives and everybody wants a better life. Most choose to get involved and immersed in a world that has everything to offer: power, success, pleasure, fame, popularity and the satisfaction of all the senses. In this rush to obtain everything, a lot of times, the commandment of love cannot be followed and families become transgressors of God’s most important commandments: LOVE GOD with all your heart, mind, strength and soul and LOVE ONE ANOTHER.
In times of such deceit and wickedness, it is difficult to follow the commandment of love and we often fall, therefore begging God to have Mercy on us. Jesus says that blessed are the merciful for they will obtain mercy. Those who give food to the hungry, drink to the thirsty, clothe the naked, give shelter to the homeless and do other merciful deeds, are indeed blessed by God.
Mother Theresa and her Mission:
Who can be the best example of God’s mercy to the modern man other than Mother Theresa herself? All her deeds of mercy were done with great love and patience. Mother Theresa once said, “The fruit of silence is prayer, the fruit of prayer is faith, the fruit of faith is love, the fruit of love is service and the fruit of service is peace.” Mother Theresa spent three hours in adoration of the Blessed Sacrament everyday and when questioned about it, she said that her entire life of service was due to these three hours spent by her in the presence of the Lord.
Dear Families, life is very tough in these times, especially for faithful families. You may face it bravely but you will not be able to make it to Heaven without God’s Mercy. Divine Mercy is your only hope of salvation and heaven and God’s providence on earth. Without Divine Mercy, you may get everything on earth but you will not be able to stay faithful to God and you will thus, lose your inheritance in heaven. We have to continue to do good deeds, even if the world has become more evil. The Rosary makes good works flourish. It is Mother Mary who obtains Mercy for all of us including the worst sinner if he sincerely repents.
Most of us cannot live like Mother Theresa. To be another Mother Theresa, you have to renounce the world and what it offers and perform the works of Mercy as told by Our Lord Jesus Christ. To do that, you have to first give your heart to the Lord. Let her exemplary life teach us to be more merciful to those in need and to do works of mercy. We thank the Lord for what he has done through Mother Theresa to make the world a better place. Mother Theresa is a perfect example of Divine Mercy in action. Mother Theresa is God’s expression of love in recent times to a world which is sorely in need of love and Mercy!
To make aware the beauty the science of Natural Family Planning as a healthy alternative to artificial methods and to promote it as the God’s given way to plan our family the world celebrates World Family Planning Day and week.
Plan a session of NFP by engaging NFP approved teachers from DFSC (call on 0832-2224140 to organise the same)
The following resources may be used to plan programmes at Parish/Village level.
DIOCESAN FAMILY SERVICE CENTRE, GOA
As you are aware, World Population day is observed around the world on the 11th of July every year to bring awareness about the so called Population explosion and the issues related to the same. But is there an actual population explosion? Are the resources of the world getting exhausted due to the so called ‘ever increasing population’? There is more respect to animal life than to human life. The laws of the country are very strict with animal life on one hand while abortion, contraception is promoted. Keeping this in mind, the Diocesan Family Service Centre (DFSC), Goa have decided to title the day ‘World Depopulation Day’, to highlight the adverse effects of depopulation on the human race.
The world population is on the decline. In fact the total fertility rate (TFR: average number of children that will be born to a woman in that particular geographical area) and the growth rate (GR) in most parts of the world have plummeted down to such an extent that from now on it seems near to impossible to even maintain the existing population. To replace our population we require a TFR of at least 2.1. In the World it is 2.42 (2015 est.), and in India it is 2.48 (2015), while in Goa it is 1.7 (2015) with only Uttar Pradesh and Bihar having a higher TFR of 3.1 and 3.3 respectively. Average age in the world is 29.9 (2015 est.) the highest population in the world being in the age group of 25-54 years: 40.98%, while in India it is 40.74%, not far behind. Who will sustain this population in the next decade if there are no more kids?
The TFR of some villages in Goa (2013/2014/2015) are as follows: Khorjuem = 1.0/0.9/1.05; Aldona = 0.85/0.65/0.65; Saligao= 1.35 (2012); Pilerne = 1.47 (2012); Socorro = 1.1/1.15 (2014/2015), Moira 1.6/1.55 (2014/2015) and Penha de Franca = 1.2/1.2 (2014/2015). All below the replacement level of 2.1 which is required for the sustainment of the population. Even if our married couples, from now on, bring forth 5 children per family, it won’t be just enough. Besides the infertility rate is also on the rise, estimated to be more than 20% in Goa.
The primary and high schools in Goa see more migrant than local children enrolled. The reason is not that most of our children are going to the so called ‘top class schools’ but that we do not have enough of our own children in our villages and cities for enrollment.
In the last year’s Pastoral letter, our Archbishop expresses his concern and makes a clarion call, “parents, having these teachings before them (the teachings of the Church), should fulfill their responsibility, even by making place for one more child. Thus, they are called to uphold their integrity and health by turning away from abortion, the use of contraceptives and of other means of exclusive sexual pleasure.” (PL 2015-16, No. 4.2). Hence we are called to promote not small but big families for better development as there will be more working hands and brains for development, in its true sense, of the nation. We are called to give up our contraceptive mentality and be open to life.
Fr. Kennet B. Teles
DHORMPRANTIK KUTTUMB SEVE KENDRA, GÕY
Dor vorsa, sonvsarant,dor vorsa, Julaiache 11ver, vaddtolea lok-sonk’kea voir ani taka lagu zatolea sogllea addkholli / proxnnam vixim, lokam modem zagrutai haddunk Ontoraxttrik Lok-Sonk’kea dis somorombhtat,. Punn khorench mon’xancho ankddo vaddta kai? Amkam soimban favo zal’leo vostu, sovloteo, hea vaddtolea ankddeak lagun khorench kobar zait vetat kai? Hacher barik niyall korun ani hea adhunik kallachi poristhiti monant dovrun, hea vorsak ami, Goy Dhormprantik Kuttumb Seva Kendran, hea disak, “Denvtole Lok-Sonk’kyecho Dis”. oso mhatallo diunk ieujilam. Tor oxem kiteak kai?
Hea adhunik kallar, mon’xanchi sonk’kea hispa bhair denvot gel’li ami polletanv. Khorench mhollear zolmotolea bhurgeancho ankddo zor ami pollet zalear, to itlo denvlolo amkam disun ieta ki aichi lok-sonk’kea asa toxich pasun urteli mhonn disona. Mon’xancho ankddo vaddtolo zalear tor dor eke ostore fatlean tin tori bhurgim zolmak haddunk zai. (Pikallponnachi Raxichalicho ankddo 2.1 asunk goroz). Ak’khea sonvsarant sod’sea asa to 2.42 (2015), Bharotant 2.48 (2015) , ani Gõyant 1.7 (2015). Fokot Uttar Pradesh ani Bihar-ant ho ankddo matso subez asa: 3.1 and 3.3.
Amchea Gõychea kaim ganvamnim ami pollet zalear, Pikallponnachi Raxichalicho ankddo (2013/2014) hea vorsamnim oso asa: Khorjuem = 1.0/0.9/1.05; Aldona = 0.85/0.65/0.65; Saligao= 1.35 (2012); Pilerne = 1.47 (2012); Socorro = 1.1/1.15 (2014/2015), Moira 1.6/1.55 (2014/2015) and Penha de Franca = 1.2/1.2 (2014/2015). Zorui amchea lognik zoddpeamnim, aiz thaun, panch pasun bhurgeank aplea kuttumbamnim zolmak haddlim zalear pasun ho denvtolo ankddo voir kaddunk pavchem nam,. Hache bhair, bhurgeanchem dennem nasloleam kuttumbancho ankddo vaddot veta to amakm dista. Amchea Gõyantuch odmaas kaddla to vis tok’kea voir asa mhonn gomun ailam. Lokachi pirai sonvsarant (on an average) 29.9 (2015 est.) zaun asa, sogllea von chodd 25-54 vorsamche piraiechim: 40.98%, tor Bharotant ti chodd fattim na, 40.74%. Tor he pindkek fudlea dha vorsamnim, bhurgeamcho ankddo vaddona zalear, konn postolo?
Amchea Gõychea iskolamnim Gõyam bhailea bhurgeancho ankddo amchea bhurgeam von odik asa. Amchim bhurgim vhodd-vhodd xhallamnim xiktat. oxem nhoi, bogor amchea kuttumbamnim hea iskolamnim dhaddunk bhurginch nant.
Fatlea vorsa, aple Gonvllik Chittint, amcho Arsebisp, hea denvtolea lok-sonk’keacher usko dhakoun oso ulo korta “Kuttumbik mog ghov-bhailechea koblantintlean suru zata. He koblaticho ek bhag mhollear novea jivitachi seva: bhurgeank zolmak haddpachi. Az-kal amcheam ghorabeamnim bhurgeancho ankddo denvlolo ami polletanv… mhonntoch amcheam kuttumbamnim jivitachi sonskrutay fulounk vavrum-ia. Amchem Kuttumb Seva Kendr soimba pormonnem kuttumb-yevzonnecheam upayancho prochar kortanam osli vollokh dita; ani hache voir lokx ghalun, avoi-bapui apli zobabdari palltolim ani aplea kuttumbant anik eka bhurgeak tori zago dovortolim mhonn ast ballgita. Oxem, zolm-bondi vixim addeche upai, gorbhpatt ani her fokot lingi dhadosponn ghevpache upai nam vaprun, promannikponn ani bholaiki samballat mhonn tench kendr ulo korta” (GC 2015-16, No. 4.2).
Hakach lagun lhan nhoi punn vhodd kuttumb ghoddun haddunk amkam apoileant. Oxem kelear amkam odik hat ani chotolim monam (brains) mellteleo ani tea vorvim amchea desachi udorgot odik bore bhaxen zaunk pavteli. Amkam jivit kobar korunk nhoi bogor jivitachi sonvskrutay fulounk apoileant. Tor ugttea monan jivitachi sonvskrutay fuloupacho nirnnoi gheum-ia ani herankui xikoum-ia.
Pri. Kennet B. Teles
- Denvtole Lok-Sonk’kyecho Dis
Adhunik kallar ami zor pollet zalear, ak’khea sonvsarant monxancho ankddo zaitoch unno zait gela. Zorui tor dor’torer aslolea sogllea sat billion lokank Indonesia dhaddlole zalear, dor eka mon’xak donxim satt ani tin (273) sq.metr, ravunk suvat melltoli asli. Ani zorui tor tankam hache suater Amazon-ar vhelole tor dor ekleak ravunk sovai (3/4) kilometr zago melltolo aslo.
- Ontoraxttrik mollear mon’xancho ankddo hispa-bhair denvot gela
Ami zor bariksannen chintun pollelear, aiz amchim panvlam eka eksurea planet-a vatten vetat mhonn ami polletanv, zhoim bhurgeanchea hanxea suater moneponn astolem; kainch avaz ascho nam. Amkam amchea kuttumbantlea toddlolea sombondha khatir khub sonsche poddtolem ani fokot itlench nhoi punn fuddarak amchea zannteancho samball korunk tornni pindka pasun amkam mellchinanam.
- Vhodd Kuttumb – Khuxal kuttumb
Povitr Xikounn ani Firgojeche sonvskrutaient pollelear, vhodd kuttumb zaun asa Devachea axirvadachi toxench avoi-bapaichea udarponnachi nixannim. (CCC 2373).
Dor ek bhurgem zaun asa ut’tom dennem eka kazari jivitachem / sombondachem. (CCC 2378)
- Pikallponnachi Raxichalicho ankddo
Mon’xancho ankddo zor vaddtolo tor dor eke ostoren, tin tori bhurgeank zolmak haddchi goroz. (Pikallponnachi Raxichalicho ankddo 2.1 asunk goroz).
- World Depopulation Day
The world is underpopulated. If all the 7 billion people residing on this earth were transported to Indonesia, each would get 263 sqm, space to live on. If they were taken instead to the Amazon, each would have ¾ of a Kilometre. Sq. Space for each of them. There is enough space for all.
- World Population is on its way to an alarming decline
We are heading towards a more lonely planet, where the laughter of children will be replaced by silence, where we will suffer from a breakdown of our main support system (i.e. our families), where we have less young people to care for our aged.
- Large Families- Happy Families
Sacred Scripture and the Church’s traditional practice see in large families a sign, of God’s blessing and the parent’s generosity (CCC 2373)
Every child is the ‘supreme gift of marriage’ (CCC 2378)
- For a population to eve replace itself, every woman should have at least 3 children (i.e. TFR Total Fertility Rate should be at least 2.1)
Child Sexual Abuse & Intervention at School -Rev.Dr.Jose Puthenveed
International, National and State Laws promote three goals for child protection namely: Safety, Permanency and Child and family well-being.
Children spend a large portion of their time in school, which gives educators more access to students. Each individual who is involved with children has the obligation of knowing the basics of how to protect children from harm.
The protection of children is not only an individual issue, but a community concern. . Educators are trained to recognize and intervene when children are not able to benefit fully from their educational opportunities.
The law requires educators to report child abuse and neglect, provides protection for those educators who become involved, and penalizes those who fail to meet their obligations.
Prevention programs are now designed to inform children about good, bad, and confusing touch.
Currently, over half of the States have legally prohibited the practices of hitting, paddling, or punishing children with physical force.
The child protection mandate must be reflected not only in the policies but also reflected in every aspect of the school administration and management.
To protect children from some all forms of violence or abuse various legislations enacted in India.
Goa Children’s Act – its Implementation in Goa. – Adv. Emidio Pinho
The Goa Children’s Act 2003 (GCA) came into being after a number of deliberations from all sections of society. It was passed by the legislative assembly of Goa on the 30-4-2007. The Government of Goa under powers of appointment has appointed all Mamlatdars as special officers to look into violations and enforcement of the provision of the GCA.
Child under this act has been defined under section 2(d) as any person who has not completed eighteen years of age. But variations do exists in the GCA i.e. for child labour it is 14 years, for rape it is 16 years and for other offence it is 18 years.
This Act has given a holistic approach to the victims in cases of Child abuse. Inspite of this act, at the police station the victim is repeatedly questioned about the incident. It’s only after the police inspector and other investigating officer are convinced, that the NGO is called in for assistance in supposedly counseling the child and to help in recording of the statement.
The statement which is meant to play an important role in conviction is not recorded in child’s language and sometimes not in the sequence narrated by the victim.
This act has banned corporal punishment in school and has made education providers liable to provide, safe drinking water, sufficient toilets, counseling and admission for all children in absence of relevant documents under the principal of zero rejection. This act provides for liability and punishment to care givers in cases of abuse of children their custody
All children who have not completed the age of 14 are prohibited from all forms of work. This act provides for stringent punishment to the offenders.
Juvenile Justice Act 2000
This act is a central legislation and applicable to the whole of India. The Juvenile Justice Act 2000 is primarily governed by the principle of rights to privacy and confidentiality
Goa Children’s Act 2003
This act is a state legislation applicable to the whole of Goa. The main tenet of this Act also is the right to Privacy and confidentiality9. Goa Children’s Act 2003 (GCA) plays an important role in advocating the rights of the victim.
Protection of Children from Sexual Offences (POCSO) Act 2012
This is a Central Legislation and is applicable to the whole of India except Jammu and Kashmir. POCSO Act intends to protect the child’s right to privacy and confidentiality through all stages of a judicial process involving the child.
The Role of a School Counselor & Teacher in Child Sexual Abuse Prevention in School -Sr Josephine Libi Arakkal
There are four primary forms of abuse that can be reported. They include: Physical abuse, Child neglect, Emotional abuse, and Sexual abuse
When talking with the child the educator should not appear shocked as a strong reaction may affect the child’s comfort level and the child should be put at ease, and the educator should sit near the child. The educator who talks with the child should be the designated person to handle such matters. The child may be afraid that either he or she will be taken from the home or the parent may be arrested. It is important that the educator abides by the promise to protect the child’s right to confidentiality. There are various consequences of child abuse and neglect and these consequences affect largely a child’s educational activity and they become a hurdle to make a children have an excellent academic record.
Report should be made with the special juvenile police or the local police. If not reported shall be punished with imprisonment of either description which may extend to 6 months or with fine or with both.
When the child returns – the role of a teacher never discuss the matter in the class room and if the Child is treated as any other child encourage the child to go for professional counseling
The role of a school counselor is building rapport skills, helping the pre-school children have difficulty with spontaneous recall.
The question of Child Sexual Abuse from the Journalist lens
-Ms Rajeshree Nagarsekar
Media have been essential to the task of placing the problem of child abuse in the minds of the public and on the political agenda. Significantly, the media have appeared, at times, to have more influence on child protection policy and practice than professionals working in the field
While acknowledging that the media’s portrayal of child abuse and child protection can have negative consequences for children and their families, it is argued that media coverage is vital if public concern for children is to remain on the political agenda, and if child protection services are to remain accountable.
Media representations are the primary source of information on social problems for many.
Outcome of the group discussions
Polices for Physical Abuse
- Management should have awareness sessions for teachers regarding various issues with an aim to create greater sensitivity and awareness about issues, to enable them to protect children from potential abuse.
- Corporal punishment should not be accepted. Teachers who adopt corporal methods for dealing with disciplinary issues should be harshly dealt with.
- In case of disobedience, the child should be given detention, it may be given one day of detention or a week. Typically, one classroom will be set aside for detention, and a teacher or administrator will supervise, the student can read or do homework but not talk to anyone or play games. Students, might be given an assignment like writing lines or an essay. There will be additional consequences if the child does not show up for detention
- In addition to detention, the parents of the child will be informed. The counsellor will speak to the parents and the child to ensure that the mistake is not repeated.
- Various posters and circulars related to the topic of physical abuse should be displayed on various notice boards in and around the campus.
- Whenever a matter of physical abuse is reported against a teacher, severe action should be taken. The school board/committee should be immediately notified and a meeting should be scheduled.
Policies for Sexual Abuse
- All the personnel or faculty members employed in the institution must be carefully screened and selected.
- The faculty should undergo various training programs to sensitise them on the issue of child sexual abuse.
- There must be a Zero Tolerance Policy against any form of sexual abuse.
- There must be a full time counsellor present in the campus. There must be a male and female counsellor present to deal with sensitive issues.
- There must be CCTV cameras installed all over the campus to monitor the daily functioning of the institute.
- Preferably, there must be CCTV cameras installed in the buses as well. If the buses are not monitored by these cameras, there must be another adult present to monitor the children and get them home safely. These bus safety attendants also have to report student behavior or concerns to the school, diffuse arguments between students and provide seating arrangements if required.
- Awareness programs should be conducted regularly for parents
- There must be written affidavits taken from the management, teaching staff, non-teaching staff, bus drivers, conductors and all other members involved in the functioning of the institute while making the policy.
Policy on Child Care
- Every school must constitute a child protection committee headed by a child protection officer. Formation of these committees will help tackle the problem of child abuse at a grass root level.
- Volunteers, should be selected with the support of the faculty and counsellors to anchor the child protection activities in the school. These volunteers are to be selected during a parent teacher interaction meeting, which provides the volunteers a mandate from the institution.
- Regular trainings should be held for the volunteers, students, lecturers, counsellors and other faculty members, with special focus on child protection.
- Awareness posters are to be displayed on buses and to be advertised on the school premises.
- There must be a female physical educator present along with a full time doctor in the campus.
- There must be a full time male and female counsellor present in the campus.
Policy for a Counsellor in School
1. The counsellor must have a degree from a recognized university.
2. The counsellor must have a degree in Psychology and not Social Work in order to be employed.
3. The counsellor must be approachable and have soft skills.
4. The counsellor should be working in one school and not several schools at once.
5. A room should be provided to the counsellor where the student can converse privately.
6. The child should not be sent for counselling for any silly reason.
7. The counsellor has to be aware of his/her boundaries.
8. The counsellor must keep all interactions with the students private and confidential.
9. There must be a good rapport between the counsellor and the teacher.
The Diocesan Family Service Centre, Goa under it Dept. of Pastoral Counselling organised a one day seminar cum workshop, titled Child Sexual Abuse and intervention at School, on 21st of May’16, at St. John Paul II Complex, Borda- Margao. A team of eminent speakers expounded on the theme of the seminar. The seminar was attended by 89 participants from different walks of life.
Fr. Albano Fernandes welcomed the gathering and led the group into pray, followed by Fr. K. Teles Director of DFSC, Goa escorting the dignitaries to the lighting of the lamp. Adv. J. D’souza set the tone to the seminar and declared the seminar open. Dr. J. Puthenveed emphasised that every school needs to have a written policy on child sexual abuse. Adv. E. Pinho focused on the Goan scenario and enlightened the gathering on the legislations protecting children. Scribe, Ms. R. Nagarsekar shared her experience on the myths that people carry which hampers reporting of child sexual abuse cases. Post lunch, Sr. J. Arakkal offered important tips in counselling sexual abused children. Finally the seminar moved into a workshop wherein participants discussed cases and made some resolution to step out to make a difference.
The seminar cum workshop ended with concluding remarks by Dr. R. Patil and Mrs. Alinda Luis, expressed heartfelt gratitude to all those who contributed to the success of the seminar. Mr. Clenton Afonso anchored the event.